Teaching/Counseling for Abortion

Who’s In Your Pews?

On Mother’s Day, some women won’t show up at church because they don’t want to be reminded about the baby they aborted. Some women will never be involved in the Nursery, Sunday School, or Children’s Church lest they be silently yet painfully reminded of their child. Yet on the other hand, sometimes these women are the most active in church with Children’s Ministries, busily trying to atone for what they have done. Millions of women suffer from post-abortion syndrome effects.

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How Do They Feel?

Grief over the loss of their unborn child that they will never see. The abortion experience is sometimes re-lived by hearing the vacuum cleaner or garbage disposal, cleaning the kitchen knives, hearing a friend is pregnant, going to a Baby Shower or child’s Birthday Party, or even seeing children playing outside.
Guilt over the realization of what they have done. Some women, men, teens, grandparents, friends, and doctors/nurses see that they have directly or indirectly participated in the death of another person. How do we feel about the accidental death of a child? Multiply that guilt by ten thousand… and bingo!
Anger at themselves and others who were directly or indirectly involved in the decision or details. They don’t know why they are so easily irritated. Sometimes, that rage erupts for the smallest of reasons and it even gets channeled towards all members of the opposite sex. This smoldering anger is so dangerous.

What Not To Do:

Don’t tell them to get over it and just forget about it because this happened in the past or because it’s already forgiven. Would we give that type of shallow and callous advice to a mother who just had a miscarriage? Remember that abortion is not easy to forget because a child is not easy to forget!
Don’t trivialize or minimize the grief process which is essential to her eventual healing! Grief is even more difficult to resolve when you have ambivalent feelings: you didn’t want this child because you thought it would ruin your future yet you miss this child now and wish that it was part of your future?!

Scriptures To Know

God understands our need to grieve upon the death of loved ones. He especially created the bond that a mother has for her child - she needs to grieve for her lost child (Isaiah 49:15; Zech 12:10; Matthew 2:16-18; 1 Sam 30:1-6; 1 Thess. 4:13-18; John 19:26-27; 1 Kings 3: 16-28).

Look at the forgiveness and thankfulness of Paul, who knew he was responsible for many deaths.
Look at the forgiveness felt by David, who was held responsible for the death of his firstborn son.
Look at the forgiveness that Jesus gave to the criminal on the cross, who had killed other people.

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